OF COURSE I LIFTED THAT TITLE FROM JACK KORNFIELD'S BOOK, BUT FOR GOOD REASON....I AM TRYING DESPARATELY TO FIND A WAY TO BE AT ONE WITH MY CONDITION(S) AND SO I READ...I GET A LOT OF "AH-HA" MOMENTS, YET PUTTING THEM TO USE WHEN LOST IN MYSELF OFTEN BECOMES IMPOSSIBLE...BUT I GO BACK TO THEM AND RE-READ THEM CONTINUALLY, HOPING THAT I'LL LEARN HOW TO USE THESE NUGGETS TO ALTER MY BEHAVIOUR, ALONG WITH AN ETERNAL HOPE THAT SOMEDAY I'LL GET IT!!! I'VE LEARNED TO ACCEPT THAT THIS WORLD IS WHAT IT IS, AND THAT MY PLACE IN IT IS AS A 'WITNESS'. THE PROBLEM (LIKE MOST OF US) IS WHEN I TRY TO FIND THE MEANING BEHIND THE MADNESS, WHICH RECENTLY BROUGHT ME TO THE WORD 'SURRENDER'. NOT TO LAY DOWN AND DIE, BUT TO ACCEPT THOSE THINGS, PEOPLE, AND CONDITIONS THAT I CAN DO NOTHING ABOUT. FOR YEARS I THOUGHT I HAD THE ANSWERS TO EVERYTHING, ONLY TO DISCOVER I ONLY HAD MY LITTLE 'ANSWERS' THAT MADE ME FEEL COMFORTABLE, BY PUTTING MY LITTLE ANSWERS IN MY EGO BOX AND FILING THEM IN MY CONTROL BOX...MY COMFORT ZONE..I CAN'T FIX THE WORLD, HELL I CAN'T FIX MYSELF, BUT I CAN LEARN HOW TO LIVE, REALIZING AND ACCEPTING MY LIMITATIONS AND LEARNING TO FORGIVE...I'M WORKING ON 'THE GREATEST GIFT OF ALL' (according to whitney houstons' song) TO LOVE AND FORGIVE MYSELF, AND SOMETIMES I GET AS FAR AS ACCEPTING THAT I'M NOT A BAD PERSON....IN FACT, THAT GENERALLY, I'M A GOOD PERSON, WITH A WARM FEELING OF COMPASSION FOR HUMANITY. I'M TRYING TO LOSE THE JUDGEMENTAL STATE THAT COMES SO EASILY TO MOST, AND AGAIN, ACCEPT PEOPLE FOR WHO THEY ARE AND TRY TO CONJURE A FEELING AKIN TO WHAT MUST BE CALLED LOVE...LOVE IS A BIG WORD, IT ENCOMPASSES SUCH A LARGE AREA OF HUMAN EXISTANCE, AND YET, SO LITTLE IS REALLY KNOWN ABOUT IT, AT LEAST TO ME. SO TELL ME FELLOW BROTHERS' AND SISTERS' OF NKM2, TELL ME WHAT YOU KNOW OF LOVE AND HELP ME GROW...BECAUSE AFTER THE ECSTACY COMES THE LAUNDRY!!