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AFTER THE ECSTASY THE LAUNDRY
Posted On 01/17/2010 12:47:56 by daveyboomer

OF COURSE I LIFTED THAT TITLE FROM JACK KORNFIELD'S BOOK, BUT FOR GOOD REASON....I AM TRYING DESPARATELY TO FIND A WAY TO BE AT ONE WITH MY CONDITION(S) AND SO I READ...I GET A LOT OF "AH-HA" MOMENTS, YET PUTTING THEM TO USE WHEN LOST IN MYSELF OFTEN BECOMES IMPOSSIBLE...BUT I GO BACK TO THEM AND RE-READ THEM CONTINUALLY, HOPING THAT I'LL LEARN HOW TO USE THESE NUGGETS TO ALTER MY BEHAVIOUR, ALONG WITH AN ETERNAL HOPE THAT SOMEDAY I'LL GET IT!!! I'VE LEARNED TO ACCEPT THAT THIS WORLD IS WHAT IT IS, AND THAT MY PLACE IN IT IS AS A 'WITNESS'.  THE PROBLEM (LIKE MOST OF US) IS WHEN I TRY TO FIND THE MEANING BEHIND THE MADNESS, WHICH RECENTLY BROUGHT ME TO THE WORD 'SURRENDER'. NOT TO LAY DOWN AND DIE, BUT TO ACCEPT THOSE THINGS, PEOPLE, AND CONDITIONS THAT I CAN DO NOTHING ABOUT. FOR YEARS I THOUGHT I HAD THE ANSWERS TO EVERYTHING, ONLY TO DISCOVER I ONLY HAD MY LITTLE 'ANSWERS' THAT MADE ME FEEL COMFORTABLE, BY PUTTING MY LITTLE ANSWERS IN MY EGO BOX AND FILING THEM IN MY CONTROL BOX...MY COMFORT ZONE..I CAN'T FIX THE WORLD, HELL I CAN'T FIX MYSELF, BUT I CAN LEARN HOW TO LIVE, REALIZING AND ACCEPTING MY LIMITATIONS AND LEARNING TO FORGIVE...I'M WORKING ON 'THE GREATEST GIFT OF ALL' (according to whitney houstons' song) TO LOVE AND FORGIVE MYSELF, AND SOMETIMES I GET AS FAR AS ACCEPTING THAT I'M NOT A BAD PERSON....IN FACT, THAT GENERALLY, I'M A GOOD PERSON, WITH A WARM FEELING OF COMPASSION FOR HUMANITY. I'M TRYING TO LOSE THE JUDGEMENTAL STATE THAT COMES SO EASILY TO MOST, AND AGAIN, ACCEPT PEOPLE FOR WHO THEY ARE AND TRY TO CONJURE A FEELING AKIN TO WHAT MUST BE CALLED LOVE...LOVE IS A BIG WORD, IT ENCOMPASSES SUCH A LARGE AREA OF HUMAN EXISTANCE, AND YET, SO LITTLE IS REALLY KNOWN ABOUT IT, AT LEAST TO ME. SO TELL ME FELLOW BROTHERS' AND SISTERS' OF NKM2, TELL ME WHAT YOU KNOW OF LOVE AND HELP ME GROW...BECAUSE AFTER THE ECSTACY COMES THE LAUNDRY!!



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From: Littlemary1
01/27/2010 22:38:17

Yeah, you can write all right.  And choose good fonts.  I think love is inside us where that spark of divinity lies.  We have to be silent and just be each day.  Expect no explanations.  Go outside, look at a tree.  It just waits.  I have felt very much loved by others especially since I was in the hospital and rehab so long this past fall.  Wow!  Peope really respond to physical illness with compassion.  But what we need is not only parity in insurance but casseroles when we're blue, too.  I don't mind the laundry too much, but since breaking my arms, my husband has to do it all and all I can do is fold.  Ecstasy comes.  Today I had a mocha shake.



From: deejaydee
01/24/2010 21:36:28

I am the new kid on the block, Davey but you asked......I never had a brother. The way I see it there are different kinds of love, like unconditional love , mostly by your Mom and Dad. They are the only ones in life who are willing to forgive you after you've hurt them over and over again, the ones who will try to help you when you need help, unconditionally. Unfortunatelly, raising a child takes good parenting skills and we are all not so lucky, but there is love there.


Love that you expect from friends- there is usually a need there...whatever it is , find out what it is, then you can have a relationship , an understanding before you can trust without getting hurt. Remember that, maybe, the love you are looking for can only come from God. We are only humans and we make mistakes, and that's where you learn to love yourself.


Loving yourself is to be able to accept that you have made mistakes in the past and we'll make more but you can forgive yourself and move on...


As for doing the laundry, some people aren't able to do that


 


 



From: steph
01/17/2010 21:20:21

Well put, Davey, well put. I am so grateful to you and others like you who can put those thoughts and feelings in words and let those of us who can't communicate so well know that we are not alone in our thoughts and feelings.


As far as what I know of love... hmmm... not much. I hesitate to say this because it sounds like drivel but I have never felt loved by anyone. I have, however, loved others. Very intensely, in fact. And I don't necessary mean romantic love. I mean family, friends, and yes, sometimes men. Man, if I could turn that around and give it to myself, I'd have it made in the proverbial shade. But that's the real trick, isn't it? Loving yourself. Can it be done?


Dammit Davey, now I am crying! But I am thinking too.




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