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Agoraphobic meets new neighbors.
Posted On 10/01/2009 23:54:12 by Trujeepermom

My appartment complex has six units. For some time now only three units were occupied. We got new neighbors. Two units at once...two new families.

Both sets of new neighbors have kids near my daughters age. Both families seem really nice. Both families have pets.

The concept of new neighbors causes a stressful reaction. See, I have to go and meet these new strangers. That is not easy for a person like me. So, I fall back on my old habits...acting.

I'm not as good as Joey. I took drama all four years of high school. I directed, did make-up, built and painted sets...and (sigh) stood center stage and played a part or two. This is what came in handy in my everyday life. Whenever I felt slightly uncomfortable (for some reason it doesn't always work...) I got into character; I become who everyone thinks I am. I never got paid to act. It is sort of like lying. I don't like the idea of being fake...I'd rather be myself...but it is a safeguard.

So, in meeting and greeting the new tenants, I took a deep breathe and became my character. I went outside (dog in tow) and made nice. (It's like that network here...characters welcome.) I don't know that anyone noticed...but they had never met me before...how would they notice? The new tenants have children, which always makes it easier. I have been in a good mood because I applied for a good job today that will fully feed and nourish my altruistic nature. I played it well...the academy would award me.

I survived the meeting. If I play it right, they will never suspect a thing.



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From: Trujeepermom
11/01/2009 17:25:09


sweeteee53 wrote:


you sound like me. i had a wonderful family living across the street from me when i first moved to az. lovely family. father was a junior pastor. i joined their church. i was hopeful that maybe the change of state and all the beautiful scenery would be an asset for feeling better. then the day came when the comments started coming. "dont use bi polar as an excuse to spend money..." oh yeah...the pastor's mom was bi polar too. then it was "God broke my son's computer because i dont discipline him." i have never, once in 18 yrs been asked to come to the school because my son misbehaved. one teacher even told me dont bother coming to the parent teacher conferences because she had nothing bad to say about my son. now, the pastor's stepdaughter got her report card in the mail and altered it!!!! and because the kid didnt do a great job with the altering, she admitted it to them before they found out. SO THEY GAVE HER ACCOLADES FOR COMING CLEAN LOL LOL




I gave up on neighbors and friends because no one can understand what mental illness is about not even the pastor and his mom once went to an estate sale and bought everything there. Although it was ridiculous for them to congratulate her for coming clean, i would never say anything to them or criticize them for their money spending or child rearing. now,,,they moved and we are no longer friends.




I did the acting thing too. it is exhausting isnt it? i am 56 and tired of the charade. from now on  i am bi polar, if you cant have enough compassion or respect go fuck yourselves. i am taking back control. i am a good person, empathetic to a terrible degree, giving to a fault...so if they dont like GOODNESS then they can fuck off because i think i am pretty great!!!




deb


What a wonderful way of looking at your situation. I fully agree. :)



From: STAGEPROMO
10/02/2009 10:01:18

....And the TONY goes to.....!


Who is your character, and how does she differ from the "real" you?


i have a character too, its funny because i employ an old trick that Jessica Savitch used; the face wave (flat hand waves in front of face to "magically" reveal StageproMo)


i just hope they're nice folks and your kid gets to make some new friends!




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